Welcome on back for Day 4…BREATHE.
Stop, right now, and just take a deep breath. Whatever you were doing, whatever is on your mind, just pause and take a breath.
Ok, let’s go back for a second and remember why we’re doing all this…momming is tough! And it is easy to get frustrated and upset, but what our kids are watching and learning all the time – so what we say and how we say it matters. So we need to be thoughtful of how we react in a situation because it is shaping how they will react. I know, this is exhausting, that’s why we have our 7 steps!!
My little guy hates getting into his carseat. It is a battle EVERY. SINGLE. TIME. And I dread it, I have to psych myself up when we get to the car, because he’s going to wiggle and fight and flip himself over and then when I get him in a sitting position finally, here come the water works.
And I just want to yell “STOP IT!!! SIT DOWN!!! WE’RE GOING TO BE IN THE CAR FOR 3 MINUTES!!!”
But he’s not going to understand that, what he will understand is that I just lost my cool, that when he is doing something obnoxious, I’m going to yell and get angry. So I breathe.
SO I BREATHE
Because I want him to see that when you are pushed, you can remain calm and clear headed. That actions have consequences, but that doesn’t necessarily mean harsh words. There are moments where expressing a little anger may be needed, but getting into the car seat isn’t that moment and I want him to know the difference.
Cut off in traffic? Throwing the meal you just made on the floor? No one has put their shoes on, still!? Breathe
Frustrated, upset, overwhelmed, unsure, take a moment and breathe. Need a reminder?