Welcome on back for Day 4…BREATHE.
Stop, right now, and just take a deep breath. Whatever you were doing, whatever is on your mind, just pause and take a breath.
Ok, let’s go back for a second and remember why we’re doing all this…what we say, how we say it, our kids are watching it and learning from it. So we need to be thoughtful of how we react in a situation because it is shaping how they will react.
My little guy hates getting into his carseat. It is a battle EVERY. SINGLE. TIME. And I dread it, I have to psych myself up when we get to the car, because he’s going to wiggle and fight and flip himself over and then when I get him in a sitting position finally, here come the water works.
And I just want to yell “STOP IT!!! SIT DOWN!!! WE’RE GOING TO BE IN THE CAR FOR 3 MINUTES!!!”
But he’s not going to understand that, what he will understand is that I just lost my cool, that when he is doing something obnoxious, I’m going to yell and get angry. So I breathe.
Because I want him to see that when you are pushed, you should remain calm and clear headed. That actions have consequences, but that doesn’t necessarily mean harsh words. There are moments where expressing a little anger may be needed, but getting into the carseat isn’t that moment and I want him to know the difference.
Cut off in traffic? Throwing the meal you just made on the floor? Still no one has put their shoes on? Breathe
Frustrated, upset, overwhelmed, unsure, take a moment and breathe. And while you are at it, try out Day 1:Pray, it’s bound to help too!
Tell us your crazy stories that required you to breathe, it helps to vent too!!